When I was a teenager my grandfather got his right side of the body paralyzed and got hospitalized because of it. I was scared to meet him because I didn't want to see him broken down because he was the one who always joked around and made people laugh. Now I worried that we might see a scared man there at the hospital. How ever, when we got there they had been able to restore some of the movement, and eventually all of it restored. He wasn't sad at all, he was even more joyful than before if it is at all possible.
I wondered how could this be, that this guy was joking around more than ever and making us all laugh. He tried to eat a yoghurt that the nurses had brought him earlier, but he did say that he was right handed and couldn't eat it because the spoon kept falling from his hand because it had no pressing power in it. It dropped to the table several times and I was worried he would turn sad. He noticed our thoughts I think and kept on laughing at the event. Soon he said, that "there's always got to be humour. If something is that serious that you can't joke about it, then there is nothing left that you can do".
So the best advice that I had from this event from my now deceased grandfather was that humour will carry you through the hardships of life if you just know how to laugh at yourself and to the events around you no matter how hard they may be.
There are 4 thumb rules which can be aplied to any sitaution/ case and this advice changed my perception towards everything. They are-
- Stay in the present moment
- There's bad and good things in our life
- Never see intentioon behind anyone's mistake
- Don't be a football of other's opinion
Believe in yourself no matter what.
If someone is trying to bring you down, it only means you are above them.
Really helped me through my elementary/middle school days of being bullied.
Do more and expect less.
This mantra has made my life more happy and less stressful.
Enthusiasm is learned.
Had a big heart to heart with a college professor right before graduating, about how I don't know what I want to do or what my "dream career" is.
Her response: nobody does. Those people who say they do, don't. Find a job, you'll learn you become passionate about it whatever it is you're doing.
Of the three people who graduated that semester with physics degrees, I'm the only one who's ended up with a decent job in my field out of college. I found an imperfect job and learned to be passionate about it. They call me lucky but I know the truth.
The less you care about what other people think, the more peaceful your mind is.
Do not take advice from any body. Everybody has to figure out there own way there own path
Don’t sweat the petty stuff and don’t pet the sweaty stuff.
Listen and ask questions, more than you talk. Then teach someone else what you know.